Someone explain this. Very useful counsel, Mark. All I would say that my grandmother was like a second mother to us, but really she was like a first mother. The division of labor between the holidays helped to alleviate some of the awkwardness of the women = mothers mindset that we face in the US. Its never the men. 34 Ideas for LDS Sacrament Meeting Talks When People Don't Apologize: Forgiving and finding reconciliation with God Would borrow from Forgiveness + Tribulation, a talk I gave fall 2019. This is Elder Hollands second appearance on this list of LDS talks on motherhood. Christmas is not a universal holiday and thus we should not celebrate one day a year, We focus on Christ every day and every Sunday so there is no need to celebrate on Christmas. However, like you, I thought Fathers Day was a done and done. Your email address will not be published. Then it gives them the option to (1) print traditional paper programs, or (2) give members access to a digital version of the program on their phones. This might be a useful reference in terms of stories about Christ and women (not saying to cite it, just to get scripture references and helpful context): http://www.fairmormon.org/perspectives/fair-conferences/2015-fairmormon-conference/christs-emancipation-of-women-in-the-new-testament. Based on the comments it seems to be prevalent everywhere in the US church. The rest of us mortals should stick with real. Latter-day Saint pianist Monica Scott has arranged a touching Mother's Day medley in honor of Stephanie Pope, a mother of five who recently passed away . Home & Family. As for me, I will be sitting this Mothers day out. Being there with my son was very nice. How could I forget? Motherhood is more than bearing children, though it is certainly that. (Sorry to barge in madhousewife). The meeting isnt about me or you, or a missionary, or mother, its about the Savior and His atonement. Measure your words with that assumption in mind. Maybe Ill get a pizza and tell the kids to cook it for breakfast when Sunday morning comes. She was not a perfect mother, but I loved her. I dont see why having a Tiger Mom would be necessarily any more or less traumatizing than having a Don Draper Mom. While it addresses questions about how to raise a girl, the talk also discusses the nobility of fatherhood, the influence fathers have on children, how to cherish your wife, and why virtue is so important. Theres got to be a way to show a little appreciation and recognize their importance and significance without it being guilt-inducing. Do you also not need an idea such as the Savior, your Father in Heaven or your Heavenly Mother? The answer has been taught by the Lords prophets. Or better yet, teach their classes and let them attend RS for a day? Daughters of God But since we have instituted Mothers Day as the day my family ditches church and meets my parents at Shoshone Falls for a picnic, I look forward to it every year. Women focused or mainly about Christ too. Diversity and Unity in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Environmental Stewardship and Conservation, Joseph Smiths Teachings about Priesthood, Temple, and Women, Peace and Violence among 19th-Century Latter-day Saints, The Manifesto and the End of Plural Marriage, Translation and Historicity of the Book of Abraham. I am the wife of a bishopric member, and I used to love Mothers Day. You might drift over to what has been considered the rebuttal of Mothers Who Know given at the next conference session by Elder Ballard. With a purpose firm and willing, More importantly, what impact does this conscious attempt to devalue motherhood within our community have on the future of the family? It was a very honest list, but emphasized that the things she would change had nothing to do with looking good, acting a certain way, or different callings. My wife and I were not in his ward to hear the talk, but he told us about it later. We got there at about 7:30 AM and one of my Aunts had already been there and left flowers for her. Mormon women are harder on themselves than any other group of ladies I have associated with. on Mothers Day and donate it to a womens shelter. In my nearly 40 years in the church that has borne true. Just as he was getting into how pornography helped him through the divorce, the bishop stepped up and escorted him from the podium. It appears that this phenomenon is growing and becoming even more common everywhere in the US church. Well give you an honest deal! Love for mothers is good, but sometimes there is a fine, fine line between love and dysfunction. Respect her. In simple terms his philosophy was that the church is not true because it is madeconsists of people who are imperfect and therefore not always true to all of the ideals taught. This cup is the new testament in my blood, which is shed for you (Luke 22:1920). Through the shedding of His blood, Jesus Christ saved all people from what the scriptures call the original guilt of Adams transgression (Moses 6:54). The other auxiliaries are free to do something, its just the bishopric that doesnt. But I see where you are coming from. She discusses the divinity of motherhood and how every woman can become a mother in the world around her. " Cogito! Sharon if that is our Sharon, please PM me. Its hard to please everyone. We like to celebrate mothers in the Church and we like to ignore fatherhood. I miss her something terrible, and being at the grave-site really brought all of those emotions to the surface. Mother's Day is a special time to say thanks to the women in your life. But Ive also read this: 40 Behold, ye are little children and ye cannot bear all things now; ye must grow in grace and in the knowledge of the truth. I wonder if this phenomenon is uniquely Mormon. Oh yes, Ive read the scriptures to be like Him, to be perfect. Too often folks with food allergies, diabetes, and similar challenges are left feeling like second class saints in our food-laden church culture. In one of my wards, the women of the congregation were given wooden spoons as their gifts at the end of the meeting. I think we should dispense with handing out things and tell everyone weve made a donation to a local womens shelter or program for mothers in need. If you want to hear about angel mothers and perfect people, remain in the chapel. For years the tradition in my ward was a simple gift for all sisters 18 and older. But alas, Mother's Day 11 years ago will forever be known as the day I landed face down on the floor of the chapel, on top of my 3-year-old, in the middle of sacrament meeting, with my skirt flung over my head. What a nice gift for a Mom..hey, you guys have a great time!! Id really love to see the fathers acknowledged on Fathers Day. My Mother will one day reach the godstage with my Father and will have there own planet. And this is all in addition to the everyday problems like getting the bills paid and the laundry done. Thanks. The perfect sacrament meeting talk? Yeah, it would be pretty late to be thinking about music now. Forgive me for not understanding the blessing part of it. I didnt enjoy Mothers Day during my years of infertility, but Ive been surprised that I enjoy it even less now that I have children. *As I type this, I know for a fact that someone out there is going to respond that their ward gives men plants for Fathers Day every year. I dont go to be honored or get a gift. could have had us all come to earth as adults, but instead we came as infants needing 24 hour care to survive; there must be something we need to learn from being dependent on parents, and 4) share some motherhood quotes. Not a perfect example but I was striving for some other options besides stripling warriors moms. Im catching up on the comments, but Kristines suggestion in #72 is perfect. I also have plenty of friends who are single sisters and they mourn growing older and menopause because they wont be able to have the children they want to hold and love. At the end of the survey there was a comments box where individuals could leave specific feedback to bishoprics that organize Mothers Day. After observing and empathizing with three generations of mothers and thinking of my own dear mother, I surely know that there is no role in life more essential and more eternal than that of motherhood.. I am confident that a poll ofactive Mormons would show that Mothers Day sacrament meeting is, hands down, the one meeting of the year most fraught with difficulty for the people who attend. There there is the secular appeal - it causes a pain to those who are not mothers. . On the road this week I attend Mother's day services with the fourth ward in St George Utah. Your comment was excellent, especially this part: Jesus the Messiah wasnt just sinless, He was God. Gospel Q&A: Do We Really Have the Spirit With Us All the Time? In this talk, Elder Holland focuses on three different experiences that reflect the majestic influence of mothers. The first is a cautionary tale, where a friend who was drifting away from the Church expressed he could not stand the thought of facing his deceased mother. Still, I think the flak about Sister Becks talk is nonsense. So He can be ideal AND real. Is it apeople incapable of focusing on the joy of others? Integrate how Jesus takes care of his mother's future well being while hanging on the cross with the scripture John 19:26-27. I agree Ray. I spoke one Mothers Day about Eve and Mary, and thought it was a good talk and well-received. But I was not a mother, in spite of my tears and pleadings with the Lord. You can also subscribe without commenting. Alece, I also love CS Lewis, and agree that we should look to higher ground in our mortal journey. Im thankful for ideals even when I dont measure up not even often let alone all the time. Thats why youve been my cyber-crush for years. The perfect hymn for Mothers Day Sacrament meeting. The best Mothers Day talk Ive ever heard was an illustration of this principle. We teach that you are basically good or even great (gods in embryo), that you are responsible for your actions and that you can actually make other people do what is right through prayer and works especially your children, that the sins you accumulate both those of commission and omission are entirely your fault, that Christ is not really in the middle of the picture until you really screw up and commit something unforgiveable like adultery and that you need to try harder to keep every one of those commandments or you are going to lose your reward of having a planet & of having eternal sex , and the celestial DFAC will snatch your children from you and destroy your perfect family sprouting from the buried nuts of polygamy where mother valently hoisted the impossible burdens. It isnt uncommon for LDS women to be dealing with some combination of the following factors: a difficult marriage, no marriage, no children, difficult children, health problems, loss of faith. My oldest, the musical and noisy one, composed parodies of many favorite primary songs about a decade ago when she was under the tyranny of those zealous but misguided young mothers. Submitting to the will of the Father, He suffered more than we can comprehend: Blood [came] from every pore, so great [was] his anguish for the wickedness and the abominations of his people (Mosiah 3:7). Maybe the Hallmark channel should use some of his conference clips as fillers when movies end early.